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MARCH 2013
Growing a Second Heart
Tree Truths and a Lie
Graham Fuller, CreateSpace, 2012,
paperback/$14.95, Kindle Edition/
$9.99, 274 pages.
Reviewed by Stephen W. Buck
Tis gripping book will speak to a broad
audience: parents, Tird-Culture Kids,
cross-cultural adoptees and anyone
who has ever been afected by the huge
ripple efects of addiction. It delves
deeply, at the most personal level,
into the issues of roots, belonging and
grounding that afect many Foreign
Service and international families.
Tree Truths and a
is an amazing story
in its own right. But what
makes it truly remark-
able is who wrote it :
Graham Fuller, a Middle
East specialist who was
once vice chair of the
National Intelligence
Council (among many
other positions), and the
author of dozens of articles
and books on the Muslim
Used to a world of
secrets and compartmentalization,
Fuller leaves nothing hidden in this
compelling account of his family’s
attempts to save their adopted Korean
son, Luke Byungbae Fuller, from the
downward spiral of addiction. As
Graham admits, for all his ability to
observe, report on and analyze devel-
opments and trends, he was never able
to fgure out the mystery that was his
son or halt his downward spiral.
In the process, Fuller ofers insights
into a Foreign Service culture that also
focuses on rationality, yet sometimes
ofers little help to families dealing
with the complexities of cross-cultural
adoption and the challenges that For-
eign Service children “living between
worlds” often face on a daily basis.
Te title of the book refers to a game
Luke excelled at : coming up with four
statements about himself, three of
which were true and one that was a lie.
Much of the book is about the very vol-
uble Fuller family trying to understand
the much quieter Luke and to save him
from his growing addiction.
While the focus is on trying to rescue
Luke, in the end the book is as much or
more about Graham as it is about Luke.
Tough he is well trained
in intelligence gathering
and analysis, Graham
comes to realize that he
is less adept in “catching
onto reality in things of
the heart.” Tis is not at
all surprising, given the
culture of the intelli-
gence world.
Graham concludes
that Luke’s death at 21
of a drug overdose did
not leave an “empti-
ness” or “hole” in his
heart. Rather, he felt “as if I have grown
a second heart…more open and vulner-
able to the world, more sensitive to its
emotional elements. Tat is an unex-
pected blessing for someone who took
routine refuge in an analytical mind.”
Like the great Greek tragedies, the
journey Fuller traces in this book is not
an easy one. Even though we know the
end of the saga from page one,
Truths and a Lie
is very hard to put
down because of the story it has to tell,
the excellence of the telling and, most
of all, the deep honesty, humility and
humanity of the author.
Stephen W. Buck, a retired Senior Foreign
Service ofcer, served at eight posts in the
Arab world during his 39-year diplomatic
career. He consults and lectures frequently
on the Middle East, and has served on the
Foreign Service Journal Editorial Board
since 2003.
How to Make Friends
and Infuence People
Persuasion and Power:
Te Art of Strategic Communication
James P. Farwell, Georgetown University
Press, 2012, paperback/$29.95, Kindle
Edition/$16.17, 271 pages.
Reviewed by Patricia H. Kushlis
As its title implies,
Persuasion and
Power: Te Art of Strategic Communica-
is a “how to” book for professionals
in many diferent felds. At the same
time, it will interest anyone who wants
to learn more about how governments
and politicians (elected and non-
elected) have informed and infuenced
publics about their policies and candi-
Farwell, a veteran consultant to
political campaigns and U.S. military
and strategic entities, aims to explain in
lay terms the thinking behind cam-
paigns of
—or, in less pejo-
rative terms, how to “win hearts and
minds.” In essence, Farwell suggests
that there are commonalities among the
Along the way, Fuller ofers
insights into the challenges
that Foreign Service children
“living between worlds”
often face on a daily basis.